In our day to day life, we might come across from many difficult situations. Some situations might be very tough to move on and find closure. Not only daily incidents, but even past trauma also affects us in finding closure.

By this, we will have a lot of physical and mental health issues. On the other hand, if we are not able to find closure, the trauma always haunts us, and that is never a good sign to find peace.

In this article, I will share a way to find closure and move on. Before we begin, I want to say this is my method which I’m following this method for the past two weeks and it helped a lot,

I designed this method in a few steps which are easy to follow. You can follow them and divert yourself slowly away from trauma. If you have any method, let us know by emailing us messaging us on social media. 

1.Finding An Acoustic Spot: First of all, find a space where you can sit and be yourself. It can be in your house, in your room, your chair or anything. It can be any location where you can sit comfortably. 

2.Collecting Moments: Once you are in your spot, start collecting moments. Write down the incidents that made you smile for the day. I suggest you do that at the end of the day so that you can write more things.

You need not literally write, you can type them on your computer, laptop, or you can install a notepad app and type them on your phone. Make sure to not forget even of the tiny things that made you smile.

3.Donot Maintain Duality: When you are in your zone, don’t maintain duality. Never think about the things that made you sad when you are in your spot and writing the things that made you smile. Just concentrate on collecting smiles.

4.Read It The Next Day: Once you have made the list of smiles read it when you are starting your next day. By this, you will start the day by smiling, which gives an excellent start to the day ahead.

Not only this, by smiling you release dopamine, endorphins and serotonin are all released into your bloodstream. By doing this, your body relaxes, and it also works to lower your heart rate and blood pressure. That is a perfect start!

4.Challenge Yourself: You can challenge yourself if you remember trauma or sad. For example, if you are at work and remember anything challenge yourself at doing work by keeping timers. By this, you will deviate from thinking about your sadness.

For example, if you generally prepare a ppt in 30 minutes, keep a timer and try designing it in 20 minutes. By this, even if you don’t meet the timer, you won’t lose anything, if you do, that’s good progress.

5.Solve Your Issues With People: If you are having any petty issues with people who are affecting your closure, solve them. Just apologise or accept the apology and accept them into your life. Talk to them and feel better.

It is one life we are going to live. What will you do with all the hate and guilt? How many days will you suffer or makes others suffer for some petty issues or misunderstandings? Clear them and keep moving.

6. Find More Time For Yourself:  You can try new hobbies that you are interested to try for a long time. You can get a pet, watch a good movie you want to watch, cook food that you like most etc.,

By doing the above steps, you will find a natural deviation from the things you are feeling sad. If you fixate on finding deviation from anything, you will keep thinking about it always so try deviating as naturally as possible.

You will also realise that you found closure within you and don’t need that particular person or feeling to find it for you. You are perfect and happy the way you are. Now that is called finding closure my friends.

The world goes on, the world moves as it is. If there is a change that happens that destroys the order in the world, the world destroys it. If it survives, adapts and changes, the world changes, and the order changes. It recurs and some activists fight for the unfair things in the world and the world again fights the activist to remain as it is.

It is the activist that is bothered with the unfair things in the world. And this unfair thing begins personally, it is unfair to the activist first and then they begin to realise there are other people like them who find these things unfair too. It is only then it becomes an activity. The activist carries the guilt of the world, but the world doesn’t carry their guilt. For the world they are just another speck of dust making unnecessary sounds and destroying the order for some logic that has never occurred to anybody.

The origin

Veeru, like all these activists, decided to fight for something he found unfair. It all started with a glass of milk. He was 17 then and he woke up to the cold chills of winter. Hyderabad is funny, the temperature during nights and early mornings are single digits but the afternoons burn your skin. 

He woke up feeling a chill in his bones, he wanted to drink something warm. He checked his fridge and found a packet of milk. And he poured it into a vessel and started heating it. As he poured the hot milk into his cup, a thought occurred to his brain. “What is this liquid?” he thought. This liquid which I drink, which I crave to make some chai tea. Without it the tea tastes bad.

He instantly remembers a chapter in his school. “Cow gives us milk” and he told himself that milk is necessary. An essential need of humans. But again “What does this milk give me?”, “Oh! It gives me calcium. So, humans need milk for a lifetime” he sat on his couch sipped some hot milk. He recalled his brother drinking milk from his mother. “Kids need milk” he thought. “Kids need mother’s milk” he corrected himself. He switched his TV on and put National geographic.

There is some documentary about cubs of different cats. “Cats need milk, beings need milk” eh thought as he saw kittens sucking milk from their mother. He clicked next and there’s some another channel of leopards mating. “I have never seen an adult cat drinking milk” he thought. This thought remained and disturbed him for some time. All this time of thinking, he never sipped the milk. “It is a cow tit enzyme” he though. And he couldn’t sip the milk another time. In fact, he felt nauseous and almost puked the milk he drank. “It is weird” he stood up poured the milk back into the vessel.

The Problem

He went out for a walk to divert himself from this disturbing thought of himself sucking milk from a cow. “The grass the cow eats that allows the cow to produce the milk that it produces for its calf. Why am I even drinking it?” he thought. He turned around as a bus honked and his eyes went upon a big billboard. That board has a big poster of a cow smiling while holding a packet milk. “My fresh milk, just for you” the board read. It made him nauseous again.

“If a human ever said that sentence, it would look like a weird fetish” he thought. He could smell cow dung. He looked around and he saw a shelter where there are buffaloes tied up. It was 5 in the morning and a man came holding a tin from the shelter. He sat down and started milking the cow. Veeru looked around and saw a calf looking at all the milk being poured into a tin. “It surely is hungry” he thought. After the man collected enough milk, he let the calf suck remaining milk.

Veeru couldn’t control his urge and went up to the milk man. “The calf looks male” Veeru shouts to the milk man. “Yeah it is” milk man replied while pouring the milk into small tins. “Well, what do you do with it? I mean, it doesn’t give milk” Veeru asks. Milk man smiled and said “We sell it to the dealers, they either sell it to farmers or sell it to the beef factories” he said. Veeru looks at the calf drinking milk from its mother that’s tied to a pole.

The unfair

“It’s unfair” Veeru whispers. “What?” the milk man asked and Veeru turned around and started walking towards his home. “Do we even need milk? Or is it because of these farming industries promoting us to drink milk? No animal drinks milk after growing up. We are animals, right? We are drinking milk for its taste! Not for the need. It is not essential. It is a corporate propaganda for all these people to live by selling milk. But if we understood that we don’t need milk, will we buy milk? It is everyone that is brainwashed and addicted to milk. They told us that it is essential! And now we buy it from them. It is their livelihood”

Veeru stares blankly at the stairs without getting up to his home. “It is us who are paying these people to tie cows, buffaloes, and steal its baby’s food because of the common delusion that we all need milk”. Veeru felt like he found out something big. He was happy that he understood something out of the world; found something unfair to him. He understood that it is unfair anywhere in the world. He set foot on the stairs going above to his floor. And while climbing up these stairs, Veeru knew that he is going to fight for it; that he is going to gather more activists.

Hence the activist!

 He decided to take all the guilt of human race to fight against this common unfairness; wanted to save humanity from the burden of mistreating and stealing the calf’s food. He decided to be an activist. And he wanted to find more people who consider themselves an activist, and just go for it! But the world is already in a structural format of drinking milk. It is an order of the world now. Will the world adapt to Veeru? Will the world take up on his guilt the way he took everyone’s? Or will Veeru remain the speck of dust while we sip milk and kill cows?

Why is taking care of your immune system important?

It’s simple. The immune system is the defence mechanism of our body, and it is our responsibility to keep it safe. But isn’t it another way round? You may ask. But the body is like tree guys! The proper you water it, give it nutrition, the more you bear the fruits. The better you provide nourishment to your body, the more it will keep you safe. That is why taking care of your immune system necessary. So, how do we take care of it? Here is a simple plan to follow, to keep your immune system strong and healthy.

Step-1-

Mindful eating-

Some of you might have stopped there itself when I said mindful eating but don’t worry. Mindful doesn’t have to be tasteless. You don’t have to punish yourself. Mindful eating includes following proper nutrition. Make sure you eat the right amount of carbohydrates, healthy fats, protein, fibre, vitamins and all the essential nutrients in your food. Apart from nutrients, see that your food includes good enough medicinal properties.

Spices like clove, thyme, cinnamon, oregano, and cumin are rich in antiviral and antimicrobial properties. Vitamin C is rich in fruits such as citrus fruits, kiwis, and several cruciferous vegetables. Protein is also essential for immune health. Include more plants and plant-based foods. Add fruits and veggies like Carrots, broccoli, apricots, citrus fruits and strawberries, spinach, red bell peppers, which are good sources of vitamins A and C. At the same time, seeds and nuts will provide you protein, vitamin E, and zinc. Additional sources of protein and zinc can be seafood, lean meat, and poultry.

Step-2-

Stress reduction-

Do you know that long-term stress might lead to chronically elevated levels of cortisol? When there is stress in your body, your body relies on cortisol. But when you continuously stress yourself, the cortisol levels keep going up discouraging the immune system to work well.

There are many effective stress-reducing techniques. Meditation, journaling, or any activity that you enjoy cannn help you reduce stress. Try and do at least one stress-reducing activity every day.

Step-3-

Quality Sleep-

We all have a myth that one needs to sleep only six hours or less. But, no. Everybody is different and requires an additional amount of sleep. Take enough time to sleep if you want your body and mind to work correctly. The body heals and regenerates while you sleep. Your immune system will go critically down if you do not give your body enough time to heal. Take 7-8 hours on an average to keep yourself healthy.

Step-4-

Exercise Regularly-

Apart from a good body, the reason why one should excercise is that when you are active, you are automatically decreasing the chance of chronic diseases like obesity and heart disease. When your body is active, it will relieve you from sluggish thyroid, allowing your body to function correctly. Women mostly face problems like PCOD/PCOS/irregular periods when they focus less on their body activity. A 30-minute morning walk will help you improve Vitamin-D and keeps you highly active. Exercise improves endorphin levels in the body which creates a sense of pleasure in you.

Step-5-

Decrease alcohol intake-

High amounts of alcohol are associated with negative health effects like low immune function. If you drink high amounts of alcohol, your body is busy trying to detoxify your system.

High alcohol consumption can weaken your body’s ability to fight infection and slow down your recovery time. That is why people who drink high amounts of alcohol face a greater likelihood of diseases like pneumonia, acute respiratory distress syndrome, alcoholic liver disease, and certain cancers.

Step-6-

Don’t Smoke!

Cigarette smoking will also affect immune health. The chemicals released by cigarette smoke like carbon monoxide, nicotine, nitrogen oxides, and cadmium decline the growth and function of immune cells, like cytokines, T cells, and B cells. Smoking will also worsen viral and bacterial infections, post-surgical infections, and rheumatoid arthritis.

Step-7-

Chronic conditions check-

Chronic conditions like asthma, diabetes, and heart disease affect the immune system and increase the risk of infections.

If people with type 2 diabetes won’t manage their blood sugar properly, it might lead to a chronic, low-grade inflammatory response that might weaken the body’s defence system.

If you can manage your chronic conditions better, you’ll free help your body fight off infection better. So, make sure you take proper medications, doctor visits, or healthy habits that keep your symptoms low.

Treat your body like a temple. Nourish it, respect it, care it and you will surely cherish the results.

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