Sitting by the lake
Feels like I have got my long-awaited break
I’m all to myself today
with my thoughts to play.
The sway of the wind reminds me of her;
As though she’s calming putting me to sleep
The stillness of the water reminds me of her;
As though she’s taking the sun to keep me in shade.
I wish you and Abba were still together;
For I miss the night binging,
The popcorn fights;
It was like we were the perfect tribe.
What changed the days and nights?
For it all went away with your fights.
I still ask myself;
And what if I could make it all right;
But then you’re too far away from our sight.
Being abandoned will forever haunt me;
For all the questions are unanswered;
Because a closer is what Abba & I will never see.
But wherever you are; I will always wish you happiness;
After all, you haven’t taught me what it is to follow pettiness.
- Did you know?
Following parents’ separation, children may regress, display anxiety and depressive symptoms, appear more irritable, demanding and non-compliant, and experience problems in social relationships and school performance. So why let your own child suffer for your decisions? Every parent deserves to be happy and so does the child so give them a proper closure before taking any steps.
Here are some medically certified ways of breaking the news to them in case of such an unfortunate event:
- Bring up the topic a good 2 to 3 months before any separation is set to begin: This gives kids some time to process the situation.
- Be sure you have a plan in your mind: even if it’s loose. Your child will probably have a lot of questions about logistics (who’s moving out, where they’re moving, what visitation might look like, etc.), and it’s assuring to them if there’s some framework in place.
- Have the talk in a quiet space that’s free from distraction: You may also want to make sure there are no pressing obligations later on in the day. For example, a weekend day may be best.
- Consider telling your child’s teacher a day or so before you tell your child: This gives the teacher a heads up if your child begins acting out or needs support. Of course, you can also request that the teacher doesn’t mention it to your child unless your child mentions it to them.
- Hone in on certain points: like how you and your partner didn’t come to the decision easily. Instead, you have thought about this for a long while after trying many other ways to make things work better.
- Assure your child that the split isn’t in response to their behaviour: Likewise, explain how your little one is free to love each parent fully and equally. Resist casting any blame, even if it seems impossible given the circumstances.
- And be sure to give your child room to feel how they need to feel: You may even want to say something along the lines of, “All feelings are normal feelings. You may feel worried, angry, or even sad, and that’s OK. We’ll work through these feelings together.