By- Chandini Kola
I have been planning to write for the pride month, and I discussed it with my fellow bloggers yesterday.
Here is what they had to say. ( I have a message too- Keep reading to find out where’s mine)
“I know the feeling of being alienated. I have been born in a country, and my own people try to conceal my identity. I’m an atheist, and I have become the most repulsive person in a group because I reject religion. I do understand how it feels to stand up and open up to your “normal” friends and family that you don’t see a point in the culture that rejects the very notion of you. A person is an individual with a different perspective, and to attain real human freedom; we must respect each other’s choices and essence. People should be allowed to believe or not believe what they like. They should be left free from the burden of shaming. Unless we harm anyone, we are all free to pursue our natural drives. I don’t see the point in conventional systems that generalise every human as one. We are different, and we are as diverse as the colours in the rainbow! We are all flawed in our own way. We choose to reject the flaws we need to correct in us. Instead, we point out something quite normal as flawed.” – Manoj Sri Harsha
“I had seen many people saying this ” Aahh!!! Look…he is gay. Better we move away from him.” “Oh, My God!!! She is a lesbo…daughter sit a bit away from her.” “Ouch!!!! How can you sit beside a 50-50? Move a little away, or else he/she might hurt you.” and many more. Well, let me tell you a simple fact.
They are not vampires to come to you and suck your blood. You don’t have to move away from them. They are not some witches who are going to change your child into a Transgender just by their touch. Come on. You can be along with them. They don’t have prickles like a thorn tree that hurts when you sit beside it. Of course. You can sit beside them. There is nothing wrong with it.
Let me ask you a question. Do you like to be called with derogatory names like Gay, Lesbo, Chakka, Faggot, 50-50 etc.; etc.? You will say a BIG NO! Not even as a joke, you like to be called by those names.
So do they…They do have names. They do have an identity. Just like everyone, they also like to be called by their names. Or call them uncle or aunt or sister or brother, just like you call some unknown person. Just like everyone thrives hard to live differently, they are already living it, and they got to live with more PRIDE.
Because they believed in themselves, even though they are illtreated/bullied/ignored by their families and society, they are all kind of beauty, bravery and rebellion who gets up every morning with enough dare to live with their TRUE-SELF despite everything.
They earned PRIDE not for being different concerning gender or sexuality but proving that they are no lesser to so-called straight people, who feel so low just by one insult.” – Samhitha Dulam
“It is bizarre that we need to tell people, not to judge anyone by their choices in the year 2020. As one Harvey Milk ( one of the best supervisors and statesperson of California, USA) said, “It takes no compromise to give people their rights, it takes no money to respect the individual; It takes no political deal to give people freedom. It takes no survey to remove repression.” The LGBTQ community is not asking for any exclusive rights or privileges; they are asking them to treat them as humans and respect their choices. Please do not disrespect their choices and abuse or assault them. Follow a simple policy “Live and let live.”
For the ones who are scared to come out of the closet, you are not weird at all. You are just as beautiful as all other people in the world. You are not at all different from the rest, but you are unique like all of us. There is nothing wrong with you. There’s a lot wrong with the world you live in. Come out of the closet and be proud of your choice. I know it is not easy, but once you come out, it will be one of the best decisions of your life.” – Mourya Koundinya
“LQBTQ… the choice of the sexes has been a thing since the formation of the Earth. Let it be Greek, Egyptian or Indian mythology, we see all type of traditional sculptures where a man is with a man, women with a woman. So when we say we belong to such a religious culture, why do we shame away from this tradition?
Every person has their own individuality for which they are known so why do we act like there are certain people we own?
We live in a world where a lot of illegal things should be legal and vice-versa, so let’s not talk about the law. Humanity and empathy should be the first law one should follow in this world because to see a happy person is really one of the most beautiful things and if you haven’t realised it yet…just smile at someone and see how it brightens up their day!
It takes a lot of courage and willpower to come out as one of them in the world who thinks it’s wrong to belong to the LGBTQ clan. Who are we to judge or have a say in someone else’s life? It’s their life, their choice, their voice. So let them take pride in who they are and let’s treat them as our own because guess what? They actually are one of us; it’s just our petty perception.” – Gayatri Agarwal
With our discussion going deep, we realised how indifferent we are and how each of us is fighting something or the other. Just a little statistics, 90% of us are fighting something or the other, who is that 10% we are fearing. Maybe that 10% are who didn’t choose to fight at all. So, we all have some or other problem. Then I understood that we are not fighting society but our own thoughts which were not appropriately nurtured. Should we all have been taught that one need not fear the statement, “Log Kya Kahenge? (What will people/society think?)” and the term society begins with us; we have had long let the fears of life go by now. But it’s never too late to learn.
Don’t let the fear hold you back from anything. Gender is not the body you are in but the feelings you hold. It is not contained by the clothes you wear, the person you love, or the choices you make, but by the fear.
Let the fear, the shame, the wrong thoughts, and the hesitation go away with the month. Bid farewell to the PRIDE month but not the PRIDE.