By Samhitha dulam
Everybody wants to live a happy and relaxed life, to have good relationships, to make money, to look beautiful, become famous and many more. Everybody likes it that way because it’s so simple and easy. But have you ever asked a question like “What pain/risks will you take? Or what are the consequences that you are willing to face?” rather than “What do you want to be? Or what do you want out of life?”
We all think of having something day after day…month after month….yet end up with nothing or getting close it. Then it is absolutely a false promise made by you by yourself, or maybe it’s just a fantasy!!! Because many of us feel to have it but fail to reach it or perhaps it isn’t something that you want.
Let me tell you my story. During my adulthood, I fantasized about being an IPS officer – mostly like an uncorrupted IPS officer. I used to imagine myself being an IPS officer. What are the things I want to change and how to help my country from being corrupted? What changes could be made to make my country from a developing nation to developed nation (in the sense of security to people, freedom to raise the voice, freedom to a woman to walk along the roads at night) and many other things. But while focusing on this, I considered first to complete my schooling, intermediate and my graduation. Well! During my graduation, I spent a little amount of time to the process of becoming an IPS officer. And soon after my graduation, I needed money, I needed to find the time and then…then what? I did nothing! To be honest, I feel like I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried!
Instead of just feeling to be an IPS officer for about ten years of my life, if I had worked on it, I might have achieved at least a small milestone.
And when it comes to my interest in arts and love for writing about something that makes me feel good never changed. I still make time to draw something or to write something because I experienced the positives after going through the negatives in the process.
Well, I somehow failed myself maybe because I was not either determined enough, courageous or perhaps I lost belief in myself, or maybe my situation made me just to quit!
Following human behaviour, we easily handle a positive experience rather than a negative experience. But remember the positive experience comes through the negative experience, the struggles/risk/pain we take. So, it’s clear that what we get out of life is not just determined by what you need but rather with what you are willing to go through to get it. Because to have benefits you should also pay its cost. You can only avoid the consequences for so long before they come roaring back to life.
Now I’m not what I wanted to be because I didn’t take the risk/ struggled to achieve it. Maybe, I was and I am still in love with the victory but not the process. My dear friend! Life will never work this way.
The one who enjoys the struggles of workout gets into ones’ desirable shape. The one who likes to take a risk in business may become the best entrepreneur. The one who enjoys the long weekdays becomes the best of others in a company. Ultimately, the one who enjoys the stress and uncertainty of the starving are the ones who live it and make it.
Many said that our struggles determine our success, and I do say that the way you choose your battles or efforts determines your success.
By Samhitha dulam