Guess I’m not a MAN after all!

My name is something which represents happiness, but I find myself crying lots of time and I happened to belong to the heterosexuals who are attracted to women and are unfortunately called Men. But I guess I’m not a man. Because “Only women cry”. That’s what they tell me when I start crying. My emotions are repressed every time I try to express something. I like hairstyles, new fashion trends, I like to look good and I take time to get ready. Guess I’m not a man because “He gets ready like a girl!” they shout at me. Sometimes I’m forced to do unhygienic things because I’m a man and I’m supposed to be a brute with no feelings. I’m educated about consent and should never force something on a girl. But I should take it as a gift or a boon if a girl kisses me out of nowhere. Because I’m a man and I’m supposed to be a pervert 24/7 with no preferences of my own. I’m supposed to wait, be respectful towards ladies regardless of their behaviour, be the initiative and compromising person in a relationship and should mostly be the person who has to propose first just because I’m a man. I’m a liberal person with a lot of respect for the Feminism movement. I guess the movement is not all about women’s empowerment. It’s about learning the fact that no one should be discriminated against by using baseless conventional bullshit such as “Women like pink” and “Men are tough”. 

“Man up!” we say to someone who doesn’t find the courage to fight. I think we don’t dare to see reality. We should man up and see that every human person is different and have different traits. Zodiac signs don’t work! Personality traits won’t work! Generalizations and universal statements are thrown at people by grouping them which doesn’t necessarily fit everyone belonging in that group. Just because I have a penis and facial hair doesn’t mean that I won’t cry; that I’m not sensitive. Many women with hormonal imbalance have facial hair. If I generalize and claim that all people with facial hair are men, then will women with even one hair on their chin become men? Or is there any degree or measure of hair to prove someone to be a man? 

Gender is a gender! It doesn’t have a degree. You are just a man/woman/other! You can’t be more or less man/woman/other by doing specific things other men/women/others do.

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Writing is not a skill acquired through practice. Not for us, at least. Writing is a phenomenon that occurred to us when we wanted to shout our thoughts out. It occurred when our brains formed a labyrinth of thoughts with no way out. Only way was to break the walls, the walls we constructed in our minds. The walls which stopped us from letting ourselves out. We broke the walls using the most mightiest weapon, the pen. Writing was our way out of that maze. Words and sentences flowed like a stream of some river, which consisted of A2Z instead of H2O. Soon the river filled the brain and the labyrinth was not visible anymore. 

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